By Katharine Luckinbill
I’m a newlywed, and my husband and I waited until marriage to have sex. I am very attracted to him, and our sex life seems to be pretty good except for one glaring issue. He won’t go down on me! The worst part is that he won’t even tell me why. I’m starting to get insecure that it’s me. How do I get him to talk to me about this issue, and more importantly, to start doing it??
Not Hot or Bothered,
Ah, the fabled “wait until marriage” couple of yesteryear. Seriously — no mocking tone — but I truly thought your kind had gone extinct! At least not in the form of normal, fun loving youngsters who just want to get their groove on. I am ecstatic to find that I am mistaken. Kudos for holding out on the most intimate of connections until you found the person you wanted to be with for the rest of your life. It is certainly a rarity in this sexually explicit day and age.
On the other hand…probably should have discussed this kind of thing before tying the knot, no?