It’s not what you’re thinking. This week’s column has nothing to do with who should pay for dinner. I’m also not advocating being a gold digger or a trophy wife—although there are definitely some days when I fantasize about being a kept woman who spends her time lunching with girlfriends after our morning pilates class and then going to the spa for deep tissue massages before we head off to Saks for an afternoon of shopping … Wait, why am I working again?
But back to my point. My husband and I have been discussing our finances recently. While the tips we’ve gotten along the way have been helpful financially, I couldn’t help but notice some pretty strong corollaries with dating. These tips are so logical, it takes all the romance out of the dating process.
Then again, who needs romance when you can maintain your sanity and the contents of your wallet simultaneously, right?
Tip #1: Diversify your portfolio.
Any good financial advisor will tell you “diversify your portfolio,” meaning you should invest in a variety of stocks and bonds because you will minimize your risk and maximize your return. The same holds true for dating. I lost count of the number of times my mother has said to me, “don’t put all your eggs in one basket,” and I’m sure you have too. When it comes to finding a relationship, your best bet is to find a few different seemingly promising options, invest a little in each, and track their performance until you identify the one solid long-term investment that has consistent growth and stability.
So instead of dating anybody … try dating EVERYBODY.